Wednesday, August 20, 2008

What else is Worrying Me.

When you become a mom, it seems that you adopt a worrying streak. You worry about the depth of water in the puddle, the temperature of the playground equipment, and if your child has drunken enough water in the 100 degree heat. I also seem to worry about less important things such as moving to a big boy bed, what activities to involve him in, etc. The nice thing about worrying is that, I have found, if you set you expectations low enough you can be happy with almost any result.

So that time is almost upon me. Honestly the thought of it leaves me cowering in the corner wondering if I will ever make it through. You see, with another baby entering our home in just a few months, we are contemplating a big boy bed for JJ. I am torn between going all out and splurging on a cute captains bed with storage, a bunk bed, a toddler bed, or a just plain mattress on the floor (refugee style).
n my mind the captains bed seems like a good option as it has three high sides and with a safety net/bar thing, it would almost be like a crib (insert evil laugh here).
However, with another boy on the way I would love them to share a room once my new baby is big enough, so I wonder if we should just get the bunks now...

On the other hand, a toddler bed seems like a great transition for a young two year old who has never even tried to climb out of his crib. Also a cute car one might get him excited about the prospect of giving up his crib. Yet, is it a waste as he will surely shortly grow out of it and I will face this same dilemma?

My last option seems to be a mattress on the floor, which I have heard has worked for some parents. I think the aesthetic of this is what is bothering me. Would it feel like a perpetual camp out?

What have you enlightened, hip, and cutting edge mothers done when this time came?

21 comments:

Thelissa said...

Well, I'm no expert, but I do know what has worked for us. I am of the mind that toddler beds are worthless. Sure they are compact and cute, but your train your child to sleep in it only to turn around and have to re-train them to sleep in a big bed. My thoughts have been to go straight to the big bed. Now with that said, we bought bunks right from the start. Then, we only set up the top bunk with the rail around it. It provides the extra stability while they transition and you are all set for moving another child in there in a few short years. Two for the price of one. Just be sure to get GOOD bunks from the start. Not cheapy ones.

KiMnRoB said...

I like the previous commentor's suggestion.
That way you're not wasting any $$!

Tammy said...

When we moved Lexi we just went right to the big girl bed. It was half of a bunk bed so it was a little closer to the ground than a regular bed. The one thing with bunk beds is they don't use box springs so you just have the board on the bottom and then the mattress. I am sure that you could use a box spring, but we used just a piece of plywood and then the mattress and it worked great. With Kayden, we used the toddler bed because he was so small and little. That has worked out well and he is still in it, however, I think we may be moving him to a bigger bed soon and getting rid of the crib forever. When we stayed at the Ronald McDonald house they didn't have cribs and only had twin beds. I found a rail that slid between the mattress and box springs that worked really well and that is what Kayden used when we didn't have a crib or a toddler bed.

I have though of a trundle bed for both the boys, but then I about the bottom bed that is always sticking out in the middle of the room or if you don't want it sticking out in the middle of the room them you have to push it in every day and then pull it out at night and that is just too big of a pain so I like the bunk bed idea.

Rachel said...

Well I personally ended up buying an inexpensive little toddler bed and used it for both kids and now have passed it on to my best friend to use for her two boys (and she will use for the2 more she will have). So all in all, the $30 dollars really stretched quite thin. But I wouldn't have been opposed to the other suggestions here.... I was just way too chicken to put them in a real bed because of the height.

Spammon said...

We put Porter in a regular full size bed. It must be pretty dang comfy because once he lays down, he is out in now time. And he doesn't move all night from the same position. Since it's a full, that little sucker gets to have that bed until he's 17.

Jennifer said...

I ended up buying a Cars/Lightning McQueen $50 bed at Toys R Us because my oldest was out of the crib at 1 1/2 (couldn't keep him in). When he out grew that we went to the matress on the floor. We now have bunk beds (top set up but no matress up there) because, like you, two boys who can share the room. I figure the $ 50 is getting me through two boys then whomever I pass it along to. Hope one of us can help you.

Erin said...

The only reason we have ever done a toddler bed is because our crib tranforms into one. I probably wouldn't buy just a toddler bed. My first went straight from the crib to a twin. But we put the twin in his room for about a month before we took the crib out so he could get used to the idea. If you do get bunk beds, maybe just set up the bottom part until you need the bunk. Good luck!

jayna said...

I love it that you call your comments 2 cents, because that is totally what it is. So here is mine:
Go with the bunks. I was in the same quandry, on the girl side of things, and we opted for the twin sized bunk beds that can be set apart independent of each other until the girls are old enough for it. We put both of my older girls into big girl beds before their 2nd birthday, just because like you said, they never try getting out of the crib, they kinda look at the big bed in the same way. It seems to me that younger kids have less opinions that 2+ aged kids. It's been a smooth tranisiton using those safety net things on the sides. (*On ebay, we found twin beds that can stack or be apart, and the bottom one has a trundle, so really it's the best of ALL worlds!) Good luck!

LindsSawyer said...

Furniture discussion usually lead me in the direction of expensive and durable is better in the long run than cheap and dispensible but I am not a hip mom and am not sure what direction to lean on this one. Ask the expert Brooke she will definitely have some info!

Gustogirl said...

The top picture is exactly what I wanted for K's room, only in white. I think a shared room is so fun for kids when they are little, I would say go with the bunk beds, but only set one up for now, then add the second when baby boy is old enough. However, if you want to separate them come nine or ten, that's another bed! I loved the captain/trundle bed because I think it is really cute for kids, but could really be used into the teen years. Good luck with your decision. I spent like 60 bucks on K's bed and mattress, so in my mind I still get to buy her a bedroom set in the next couple of years!:)

lys said...

Bunk beds!

Natalie said...

I actually just moved Wes to a bed last night (see my blog). We definitely didn't splurge as we're just starting grad school, but we did go for a regular twin bed so we can continue to use it in the future. Wes is in a different stage than JJ though, so I don't think the change from crib to bed really phased him since we put a mesh bed rail up. One night and one nap down and we're doing okay! Good luck!

pinkmorning said...

hmm, i like the idea of a twin bed, that is what we will do i am thinking...unless we don't have a second baby at that point and could just convert audrey's crib to a little daybed...

Nap Warden said...

I don't have an answer...but I will tell you, if you have access to an IKEA, they have some great kiddo beds. Really well priced and cute. You can't beat that! Good luck with your decision:)

Travis & Leslie Doman said...

I am doing a twin bed! I figure why do the whole toddler thing. Also J.J. seems like the type to cowboy up faster than most boys his age! He will probably like it in his own bed. Bunk beds are cool too! I always say wich ever one looks better and will last longer. Lindsay is right about the whole money thing!! oh and my friend did an awesome thing, she set up the bed in her boys room but left the crib up and introduced it that way, then you can kind of give him a little comfort before taking the crib away! that was way long sorry!! bye bye LES

Jones Family said...

I would buy a big boy bed and put it in his room. You could just get a mattress, box spring, and a frame to get it off the ground. They are only $30.
Put the bed in his room and talk about the big boy bed, but let him keep sleeping in the crib. He should want to go to the big boy bed.

You could try to find a car bed on craigslist. My friend got a really nice one, it just takes up half the room because it's so huge!

PS. I like bunk beds for boys, but the kind you can turn into two beds. It has worked out well for my brothers.

shauna said...

Heaven's knows, I'm a fellow worry-wart! I love that first picture, but I would probably opt for the mattress on the floor... :) We have bunk beds that can stand separately, and that works well for my two boys now. I wish I could contribute more but admittedly I'm not very enlightened, hip or cutting edge. Good luck!

Midwest Mommy said...

We skipped out on the toddler bed and bought our daughter a twin bed a few months ago. I bought a couple railings at target to keep her in and it has worked fine. We didn't buy a bedroom set yet. We wanted to wait til she was older to help pick it out. So right now we have a twin mattress on a bed frame. Good luck.

Nesting with Grace said...

what I am going to do...or I already have it being stored in my basement is buy a twin bed. My favorite thing to do for clients is buy two twin beds and put them side by side with a nightstand in the middle. You could buy JJ his now and buy the other to save for boy #2 or just set them both up now then when he gets older to have sleep overs it is great or Jermey can sleep in it when you kick him out of your bed! I LOVE that look.

MamaGeek said...

Oy. The mere THOUGHT of a 'big boy bed' makes me wanna go in the fetal position. I wonder if its' harder than potty training. Anxious to hear.

Deacons Mommy said...

YOU my friend are a hip and cutting edge mamma so follow your heart, I just know you will think of something great!