Friday, March 28, 2008

Should I go or should I stay now?

Privatization seems to be a growing trend among many friend's blogs. I, too, have gone the rounds for a few months considering this very idea. I decided against it, then decided to do it, and now I am at a place of stupor.

Here is a brief list of the reasons (in my brain) not to privatize vs. going private.
CONS
1. I really enjoy the community that is created through blogging.
2. I love the idea of putting thoughts out there for the world to view. I feel like it keeps me honest.
(And, perhaps the BIGGEST reason of all....)
3. Please correct me if I am wrong, but I think that you can only issue 8 invitations and I have more people in my immediate family than that?
4. I feel like if there is some crazy person out there that wants to terrorize me or my family, than there are other ways to find me anyway. I mean Google Maps can go down to street level in some places and capture a picture of me and my son and our car and everything in the front yard!

PROS
1. I value the security of my family.
2. In some ways I like the idea of controlling who comes and goes... a bit.

Many of you already are private, so why did you decide? Those who aren't, what is keeping you from doing so? Am I pathetic that I love this little blogging community where I have met some new, fun friends in my similar life situation?

Some other ideas I have had are to request anyone linking to me to not use my "real name" (sounds so important haha) and just link to me through my blog name. Also to stop posting pictures of JJ. This is sad for me as my family is spread through the country and this is the best of relaying pictures and stories.
The final idea is to go somewhat anonymous on this blog and start a private, family blog with pictures and stories . One, if not both blogs will undoubtedly suffer this way, but I AM concerned about security?

Dispense advice. Please.

22 comments:

pinkmorning said...

i have thought about making my board private when baby girl comes, i have not even posted her name yet because i just don't know how i feel about it, you know, especially posting pictures...it is a tough dilemma though because i also enjoy having my thoughts "out there" and getting feedback. i have found too, that from some blogs if you read far enough back, not only can you read first and last names of all family members, but even have addresses listed or at least the city they live in, and with the last name and city and state, it would be pretty easy for someone to find you and if they know what each family member looks like, you just never know, you know?

jayna said...

Well, after going thru a similar battery of thoughts, I've decided to stay public for the following reasons:

Like you said, anyone and everyone could find you in a google search anyways.

Many of our family members are slightly computer illiterate- if viewing updated pictures of our kids involved logging in, they would be less likely to enjoy them. Or simply stop altogether.

You have to have an account to sign in, thus preventing the people (above) who don't have blogs themselves.

I tell myself that there are easier pickins' besides my kids if a child kidnapper happens upon our blog.

And finally, I have enough friends who are computer geniuses tell me that even going private, if someone knows a little computer footwork and wants to see your "private" blog, they will still be able to access it. I finally decided it's more for personal peace of mind than actual fool-proof security.

So there are my thoughts on why I'm still public- it's a scary world and it's good to be informed, but when it comes down to it, posting PERIOD on the itnernet puts you out there for all the good and bad to see.

Good luck on your own decision.

Ashlie said...

Like you, I was not sure if I should go private or not because I have found so many of my long lost friends. I recently had a situation where an individual I have had to ask several times to stop showing up at my house, work, school, etc. find my blog. I thought I would never have to deal with this person again until I found out they were viewing my blog. I would prefer it if this individual didn't know anything about my life. That is really the only reason I am going private. I wish so bad that you could just block certain individuals and not the whole blogging community. If it weren't for this, I wouldn't be going private.

Spammon said...

Personally I think is the new age. You're either online or your an idiot. j/k. What I mean is there's no way you will ever be able to hide yourself from the internet.

Nancy Brown said...

I went private after three years mostly to prove a point and that point is still being made. I do miss having people stop by randomly. Aunt Mary use to read a lot and now she can't because I am don't have her on my list.

That said, You can have about 100 readers. Not 8. And If you do go private I want to be able to stalk my cousin... A glimpse into his life. I truly think ALL my high school buddies and family should have one so can keep up on them


Nancy

Stephanie said...

Rachel I think that going private is more for piece of mind than anything. I was really nervous as I typed certain names and words from my blog and all of these images keep popping up. When I played around and privatized my blog you could not view the images because it was for invited readers only. It made me feel better knowing that not just anyone could access my blog. People may thing that I am being paranoid but I think I am just being cautious. You never know what could happen and I just feel like it is a good way to protect my family. You can also invite up to 100 people to view your blog. I too have found long lost friends through blogging however I feel that I would do more potential harm to my family if I keep it public. If you do decide to go private please send me an invite. Good Luck Deciding.

Shanda&Corey said...

I love looking at peoples blogs, I've found people from high school and it is fun to see how they are doing! While I'm not creepy in the least bit, it is a worry that you have other people looking.
The only reason I may go private is with Corey's new job!
I would also like to get rid of the people who post random weird things...like "click here and here" that drives me nuts!!
If you do go private, DEFINITELY add me!! :)
Good luck! ;)

LindsSawyer said...

I don't know about this topic I do think with kids their more consideration...I am with you I love the blogging community and being able to reconnect with people from the past so we will see what happens...

Dara said...
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Dara said...

I have thought about making my blog viewable to certain people as well. For the time being, have decided against it. I think paranoia has set in slightly because of the world we live in. If you take a step back as I have done, I highly doubt you have 1000's of hits on your blog from random people, odds are the hits are only from those that know you and those you have shared your site address with. Making up fake names or deleting the town you live in on your profile might alleviate some of the concerns you are having. I enjoy blogging if nothing more then keeping all my friends and family updated on our lives since we live so far away. Google search yourself and see what comes up. If you have trouble finding your own site on Google...odds are a predator looking for someone with your name, or your sons name would have a hard time as well....
Obviously do what you think if right for your family. Good luck in making your decision.

Dara said...

Me again....I googled your name, as I did my own. Yours comes up as linked to several people's websites other then your own. Ones that you leave comments on or ones that have your site linked to theirs. I don't have my last name attached my my posts or comments, so maybe if you just correct that, your name will not pop up so easily. Another thing you have to think about, since you are this concerned...what about facebook or other "networking" sites you are signed up with? I have heard more "bad guys" finding people on facebook and myspace type sights vs. a blog site...just something more to think about....

Aunt Nicky said...

I agree to some point that having a blog go private can be a good thing, BUT some people don't let certain people into that life and they will do anything to stop people. I like reading about JJ and what is going on. He is growing up so much. The Labrum clan doesn't get together THAT often that we get to see how much all the kids grow up. I think you can keep a limit to what is said, but I don't think it should go private!

LindsSawyer said...

Hey perpetually sore.....I can't move my legs its like I'm cemented into the ground...my docs keep asking me if I hurt my ankle cause of my limp....

Tammy G. said...

I have been a lurker on your blog and haven't posted a comment (I probably should have) but I am sure that if you have sitemeter then you know who most of us are.

Anyways, I think you have some great points and I think dara had some great points on both pro's and con's. I agree that if someone really wanted to find me they would be able to regardless of what is out there. I also agree that myspace and facebook may be a little more "scary" than blogger. I also do understand the need to protect our children. I have thought about going private and haven't due to the fact I love the interaction and also my thoughts and experiences may be just what someone needed to hear that day. It truly is a hard decision. If you decide to go private let us know, because I too would like to to be invited.

You are a great writer and I have loved reading your posts. You have great insights and some great point of views.

thekirnancrib said...

i have had the same thoughts so many times. then again, as you and others have said, if someone REALLY wants to find me... they will no matter what. it is so sad, really, to even have to worry about this stuff. I for one am so grateful for all of the new friendships I have made through blogging, I never would have thought!!! ;)

Shauna Belknap said...

I've thought a lot about this one too, especially since I've become a single mom. I too love the blogging community and would miss that part of it (it's amazing how many people you stumble on that way...). But then I decided if someone wants to find me it wouldn't be that difficult without my blog. I'd be better off unlisting my phone number. Good luck deciding... (and if it's worth anything, I would sure miss you if you went private--but don't let THAT influence your decision... :-) )

megan&steve said...

I was feeling like setting ours to private, because I have no idea who looks at ours and doesn't leave a comment. But then I remember fun friends who have found us by using google and wouldnt want to rob them the opportunity to spy on our family. Hahhaha. I love reading about your thoughts and ideas, Rach.

Nap Warden said...

You know, I wrestled with this as well. I really love the community. I tried not to post pics of the babies, after someone left a mean comment, but I love putting pics of the kiddos up. I wouldn't be able to go private...I hope you don't, but I would understand if you did. I don't think I helped, just letting you know I get where you are coming from...

CC said...

I ended up with 2 blogs! One that is not-public for my family and friends. Then this year I started one that is public and is about MOI and my work. No names. No pics of the kids. Works for me! :)

MamaGeek said...

NOW I get it. Sorry, I'm so behind.

I seriously have been considering going private as well. But if I do, or if you do, please send me an invite - I'd miss you too much!

Nicole said...

Oh gosh! I am so new to this blogging world and I have been putting pics up of the kids now and then and never even thought of going private or issues. Of course I don't have our address but I use names. Yikes! It seems in many ways, the whole point is a new community and forum to talk to people with similar interests. Oh dear... Now I have all these new thoughts. What to do...

Kareer Woman said...

Just joined the blogging world a couple weeks ago, so much I still need to learn. I was doing some blog browsing tonight and glad I did because I enjoyed your posts. I guess I wouldn't have been able to do this if you would have gone private, but I understand the feeling of wanting family security. When in doubt, I usually rely heavily upon my instinct.