Given my situation, I was probably biased as I watched the Today's show's coverage on "young Marriage" this morning. I was married young by most people's standards (even mine) at age 19. They prefaced their story by saying that a recent study suggests that the average age of people entering marriage continues to rise. This year the average was 25, as a opposed to 20 several years ago, however, the divorce rate has not gone down at all.. in fact it continues to rise. It caught my attention, so I watched the story, even though I never seem to give my attention to the Today show anymore. Although their "teaser" plainly stated that there is no link between young marriage and divorce, the entire story proceeded to try to refute that study. Needless to say, I found the coverage upsetting. I know that the Today Show's segments tend to be very short, Reader's Digest-esque snippets of much larger pictures, however, the few examples of young marriage that NBC chose to portray were failed Hollywood marriages, and a disgruntled divorce'. At the very least, it was not a balanced view given the fact that they did not show an example of a happily married young couple, at the most it was yet another attack on marriage in general as their "experts" talked about the institution being more about passion than necessity these days, and concluded by saying, "if people marry young, the bright side is they still have time to find themselves and experience life when it doesn't work out." It may have been a flippant comment, but, in essence, what their "expert" guests basically said that there is no growth or self-discovery within marital bonds. Sadly, these were MARRIAGE COUNSELORS!
I am not about to exert that everyone should get married as young as I did, but I thought that the argument the Today show made was a weak one. Please do not show me Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey who invited MTV's cameras to document the first months and years of their failed marriage. Or, if you are going to site Hollywood marriages, make it fiar and shoe the older marriages that failed to, (Jennifer Anniston- Brad Pitt, Denise Richards-Charlie Sheen), I think there are many other reasons for divorce in Hollywood than age, thank you very much. Next, of course the woman who moved to New York after her youthful marriage broke blamed age for her failure in marriage as well. No one wants to admit that they were selfish, prideful, or unwilling to change and that is why they wre divorced. I am not saying that divorce is NEVER the answer, in fact I do think that in certian cases, it is the only one. However, divorce happens regardless of age. I would say it has more to do with ability to self-analyze, adapt, and willingness to work at it. We are almost 6 years and still going strong!